According to recent studies, casual sex dating is becoming gradually more commonplace in American society in recent decades, especially among younger generations. While some may decry this as an affront to traditional American values, the facts don’t lie – more and more Americans are hopping on the bone train.
So what’s causing this subtle sexual revolution? Here’s a breakdown of the four biggest factors that seem to be contributing to this.
People are more informed
One of the best arguments for more casual sex is knowing, well, anything about sex. For example, that it’s pretty fun, or that there are safe ways to do it, or that you won’t burn in eternal hellfire for doing it before marriage.
Okay, the jury’s still out on that last one, but the first two are mostly indisputable. Bear in mind that despite housing the generations that espouse traditional values the loudest, the ‘50s, ‘60s and ‘70s were all about casual sex. It wasn’t until later in the ‘80s that the AIDs scare made people less eager to drop trou.
Thankfully, much of the fear and misinformation that fueled that is abating. Not too mention that sex ed is actually starting to mention other ideas besides the losing battle that is pushing abstinence-only practices on teenagers.
The media are more open about sex
I could go on for hours how film ratings officials in America still feel the need to hide anything remotely sexual yet allow torrents of blood in a PG-13 movie, but the British have skewered us on that front enough. So, we’ll just acknowledge that it’s getting better, with less shaming of sexually active people and more sexytimes in television and movies.
The media are vital in both reflecting and shaping our view of society and the world around us. So when you turn on the TV and it tries to suggest people don’t want to screw pretty much all the time, it’s just counterproductive. It’s a work-in-progress, but media that presents actual human beings that aren’t in a permanent state of denial regarding their sexuality is ultimately a good thing.
Like, 50 Shades of Grey really, really sucks, but it’s better than nothing. Kind of. I guess.
Alright, maybe not. But at least we’re trying!
Traditional values are fading
Remember earlier when I made that crack about burning in hell for pre-marital sex? Fascinatingly, on average, it’s becoming more likely that you chuckled at that, rather than writing an angry letter to your congressman or something. Some 20 percent of Americans today don’t identify as religious, and even among those that do, a more liberal attitude regarding traditional American values is taking hold.
We live in an era where people are arguing for the rights of homosexuals, transgenders, and other groups, meaning we’ve more or less moved past caring what a man and a woman do. The puritanical “no sex til marriage” paradigm is on its last thread. And good riddance, I say.
We also see the emergence of feminism causing many women to be more empowered, leading many to take charge of their sexuality. Women are asserting, among many other things, their right to have sex on their terms. Meanwhile, shaming women with terms like “slut” and “whore” is being met with shaming-shaming. For some, this means less sex. For others, this means more.
Dating apps are becoming more popular
For all the empowering cultural shifts that are leading to a more sex-positive America, among the least impressive and most significant has been the growing existence of dating sites and apps. It’s not too radical to say that if the older generations had Tinder, they might not be so keen on bashing hookups.
The Internet has made sex so much more accessible it’s absurd. Anyone without AdBlock installed can tell you that. It’s not even all that new – among the main things that pushed the Internet from niche to widespread was chat groups based around sex. So, as technology continues to grow in leaps and bounds, don’t expect the frequency of casual sex to slow any time soon.